You Decide: Which Wolf Do You Choose to Feed?

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My husband passed along a story that a colleague had forwarded to him:


An old Cherokee is teaching his grandson about life. “A fight is going on inside me,” he said to the boy.
“It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves. One is evil – he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.” He continued, “The other is good – he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith. The same fight is going on inside you – and inside every other person, too.”
The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, “Which wolf will win?”


The old Cherokee simply replied, “The one you feed.”


This brought to my mind a book the Head of School at my children’s school had recommended to me when I was at a loss for how to navigate conversations with my children about self-responsibility. The book, Parent Talk, by Chick Moorman, has loads of simple concepts that I found extremely helpful with my children. I ended up buying the book and still refer to passages from time to time. The first chapter is devoted to three words: “Choose. Decide. Pick.” and is full of examples of how to empower children, build self-esteem and encourage responsibility through clearly framing options and consequences.


Of course, we know as adults that we have choices too. We just forget it sometimes!


What if, as adults, we use the Cherokee story and the parenting concepts as guideposts for ourselves – for large and seemingly small situations? I feel good inside just thinking about the possibilities! Amazing things happen when we realize the power of the self to choose, pick, decide, and feed the ‘good’ wolf.


As adults, we can choose to ingest food into our bodies that is wholesome and nourishes the true self within. And choose not to yield before the wolf (food) that we know is not good for us. Framing food as a conscious choice diminishes deprivation.


As adults, we can pick activities that we enjoy and that bring out the best in us (yay for BollyFit!). And not pick the wolf (inactivity) that we know creates physical and mental complications.


As adults, we can decide to be conscious of how we feel when we are in various situations, and when possible, surround ourselves with people who bring out the best in us. And not pick the wolf (energy vampires) that suck the peace and joy out of us.


I invite you to go ahead and choose, pick, decide…to feed the good wolf within you 🙂


BollyFit GreenGem of the Day!


Whether we believe that global warming is a reality or or not, doesn’t it make sense to use only what we need? Our homes feel cleaner and more spacious with less accumulation, and we feel lighter within and without when we simply check ourselves before taking in or using exaggerated resources. This can be into our bodies, our homes, and even our lives.


In terms of resources into the home,  am certainly conscious of this, though immensely inspired by the likes of the Jar Lady http://chrissearles.blogspot.com/2012/01/zero-waste-families.html, And am inspired by all of us who make conscious decisions – even here and there – to take in just what is needed, to use just a little less than we thought we needed. It is liberating to choose simple, small actions of less intake – these help us feel more filled up from within, and in alighment with the inner space we occupy in outer space.


I stopped at the grocery store on Friday to pick up energy bars for my cubs’ flag football game. Went in for two bars. Somehow came out with six so I’d have a stash on hand for their soccer games the next day. Plus six packs of my favorite ‘good for your teeth’ sugarfree chewing gum. And a cup of vegetable soup for lunch. Then, the cashier asked, “Paper or Plastic?” For some reason, I started to feel anxiety come over me like an almost boiling pot of water starts to suffocate its surroundings. I had not brought my own grocery bag in because I only planned to buy two bars. I did not want to buy a reusable bag for $1.99 because I have multiple hook hanging with them at home. Yet, I did not want to bring home another paper (and – eek! – certainly not plastic) bag as I have a closet crammed with them (see photo above).


What I did want to do at that moment, was to feel good, feel responsible, feel independent. And my inner instinct was that I did not need the bag. My mind raced to the possibilities. What would I do if I were trekking a desert in the heat needing to carry these items over miles to my hungry family and there was no bag in sight? Of course, I would find a way. And then I was excited. I did not need to trek trecherous terrain. I only needed to get to my car a few feet away in the parking lot.


I noticed the pockets on my hoodie and proceeded to fill them with bars, packs and more packs. And the hot soup in my hand. “I don’t need a bag, thank you though!” I exclaimed to the cashier. And then I watched with glee the grins on customers around me who seemed to wonder if I was taking something illegally (of course I was not!) or up to something silly. The look of another customer in the parking lot gazing at my pockets that were bursting with small grocery store items caught me. I excitedly shared with her that a “GreenGem” was illuminating within me – I had just foresaken a bag and realized I was ok without it, and could she please snap a photo? 🙂


Do you have a GreenGem?